This is the greatest fear come true for a lot of us who have aging parents, isn’t it?
About 40 million adults serve as a family caregiver in some capacity, according to an AARP study, and about 25% of those are millennials. As our parents get older, it’ll be harder to hide from the need to make tough decisions for our parents’ benefit.
But parental health issues and money troubles aren’t things you can easily bring up around the dinner table. Parents don’t want to talk to their grown children about worst-case scenarios. Asking for help is hard for the people who are so used to providing for others.
Which is why it hurts even worse when they wait to come to you until they’re really in financial trouble.
It’s time to have a long talk about money.
Call your dad and find a time to talk or meet when you won’t be bothered by others. Maybe plan for sandwiches. Tell him upfront that you want to talk about money and preparing for his future. Being upfront tells him you’re facing the problem head on, and that he should, too. If you spring it on him mid-sandwich, he’s going to feel blindsided.
But this isn’t a lecture. Think of it as a fact-finding mission. Tell your dad: “I know money’s tight, and as I’m planning for my own financial future, I want to think about yours, too.”
Then ask lots of questions.
Does he have any money in savings? Is there any money he set aside for you or your siblings a long time ago? Does he owe any debt? What are his normal bills each month? Does he have a will? What about life insurance for him, his wife or his mother-in-law? What stresses him out when he thinks about money? What does he worry about when he looks for work?
The answers probably won’t be pretty, but it’ll get you talking. This conversation isn’t a time for “I told you so” or “Why’d you do that?” comments. It’s a time to ask questions and learn. This first, terribly painful conversation will help you lay the groundwork for your financial future together, in whatever format you decide upon.
You don’t have to commit to providing monetary support. Don’t forget that your time may be just as valuable to him as he navigates this next phase of his life.
A few resources that may help as you determine next steps:
When he turns 65, your dad will be eligible for Medicare. In the meantime, his modest income may mean he’s eligible for Medicaid. Securing health insurance can take a huge burden off your family’s aching shoulders.
The CFPB’s retirement calculator can show you what benefits your father might be able to claim from Social Security at various ages. Sit down and use the calculator with him, since you said he’s not tech-savvy.
Find out where your local Area Agency on Aging is based, and what services it offers. This organization can connect your family to resources for insurance and health issues, transportation and other nearby services. It’s also a reliable source of information to help your dad avoid financial scams that target seniors.
You don’t need to concoct a grand plan to save your father’s finances right away. But by understanding as much as you can about his situation, you can determine the best way to help him, whether it comes from your budget or elsewhere.
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Lisa Rowan is a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.
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